We are the National Institute of the Study of Violence. We thank you for allowing us to introduce this information to you. We ask that you visit our website often and invite others to do so. Our information is for everyone men and women alike. Many of you are fathers, brothers, and sons and you want the women and children in your family to be safe. We believe we can offer you information to help you protect your family. Our mission is not to divide the sexes but to bring reconciliation and knowledge. We urge you to visit our website. We realize the reason why most men have not participated in the women's movement is because they do no know what to do. Call us we can offer some suggestions as to how men can become involved.

We know you are sick and tired of hearing about the violence in your community and violence in the country. We also know you are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Well there is something that you can do to stop the violence. You can change. If you just divorced your second mate maybe you need to take a look back through your life and change. If you have children scattered throughout the community maybe you need to take a look around you and change. If you are always arguing with your coworkers and conniving against your supervisor maybe you need to take a look around you and change because the problem may be you not the other person. Yes we are telling you the key to stopping the violence is for you to change. When you have strife at work you bring that violence home and it permeates the house. Your work disposition affects your children and your spouse. Children learn from your behavior.

If there is strife in your family maybe the problem is you, meaning you need to change. If there is disharmony in the supermarket maybe the problem is you and you need to change. If there is dissension in your neighborhood or at the bank maybe the problem is you and you need to change. If there is a problem in your church or the restaurant maybe the problem is you and you need to change. The root of contention and violence is people refuse to change. A person takes a stand whether the position is logical or not and refuses to consider any other point of view. Has it ever occurred to you that the problems you are experiencing in your life may not be the other fellows fault but that you refuse to change and to grow up. Maybe it is time for you to grow up and assume responsibility for your life. The fact that your father or mother was not home when you were growing up is in the past it is time for you to decide what type of father or mother you want to become. Just how many women are you going to bed before your children become disgusted with you? Just how many times are you going to sneak out on your husband until your daughters begin to mimic you?

Has it occurred to you that the problems you are experiencing in your life are due to jealousy, envy and your refusal to assume responsibility for your children and your mate? Maybe the problem in the home is you. Maybe the reason why your children are wandering the streets at night is because of you. Do you believe everyone else is wrong and you are right? Ask yourself why do I go to church if I haven't changed? Don't you think it is foolish to get up every Sunday morning, dress and cart your children off to church and you still refuse to change? You might as well stay home and save the gas. At least your children will be happy they can stay home and watch cartoons instead of sitting in church listening to a preacher telling you to change and later coming home and watching you throughout the week reek havoc in your home and on your job. When you refuse to change you are teaching your children going to church is a waste of time.

Remember the United States Post Office with the long lines and the rudeness. Now the post office is playing catch up because UPS and FED-Ex has taken over half their business. UPS and FED-EX are multi-billion dollar businesses because the post office refused to change in time. Some individuals at the post office believed they had a captive audience now they realize they no longer have that audience because of the smiling faces of UPS. Peace and harmony can be brought about in the home and at work through respect and considering the other person. Change can be good. Change can make your happy and fulfilled. Don't be afraid of change. Change can lead you into a better life regardless of your age or circumstance. Take a serious survey of your life and when you find an area where you have not demonstrated integrity or character change. The beneficiaries of your change will be your spouse and children. Don’t end your life playing catch up like the post office. Be honest about your failures and faults and change and watch how people around you respond.